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Why Nice Guys Finish Last: An Open Letter to Men

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Posted By Man Overseas Posted on October 8, 2024
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Dear Men—

We’ve all heard nice guys finish last.

It’s true. Nice guys get taken advantage of.

Recall how many of your buddies have been left by a woman because “he’s too nice” vs “too mean.”

Not sure the latter ever happens.

I’m not encouraging you to be an a-hole. Rather I’m saying it’s better to be kind than nice.

And while it’s possible your love interest isn’t smart enough to decipher whether you’re being kind or nice—it’ll become crystal clear when your kindness is taken advantage of due to perceived weakness or your being too nice.

I’ve been there. Here’s the conclusion I came to. Those who would mistake kindness for weakness should be eliminated from your life and forgotten into oblivion.

Not necessarily now. But there’s no time like the present—your precious time and energy are too valuable.

This is hardly breaking news, but weak men get manipulated.

I see it all the time—men who allow themselves to be manipulated and emasculated, which invariably leads to loss of respect.

If you even think I’m describing you, it’s time to re-think the power dynamics in your relationship.

Do you feel respected? Are you leading? Does she trust your leadership?

In my own marriage, losing my wife’s respect would be no different than if she felt I didn’t love her.

I’m not nice to my wife. I’m kind. Just as I am to myself. She trusts I will do whatever is in her best interests. That’s kindness.

By contrast, weak men are concerned with being liked—something you shouldn’t care less about. They’re sneaky and secretive, not saying anything they’re concerned might hurt someone’s feelings.

Weak men want to feel safe—a feminine characteristic which conveys to your woman that you’re incapable of protecting her. A woman knows at her core that a weak “man” won’t fight to the death to ensure her safety. And she can feel that.

A weakling can’t state what they want directly. Instead of being aggressive, they’re passive-aggressive. That is to say, manipulative.

If you’re attracted to the vapid bad bitch girl boss that’s emerged in the West since “liberation,” you should ask yourself why that is.

Because feminism is cancer—the malignant sort that will devour you in an awfl way (AWFL here is an acronym for Affluent White Female Liberal).

Surely you’ve noticed by now that society is mostly being run by awfls and feminine men who are afraid to confront them. But don’t let that be you.

Men must stop being weak and develop a spine. The good life and that of your kids depend on it. Come to think of it. Our entire country & culture as we know it depend on it.

We’re at a pivotal point in the West. Those trying to stem the free flow of information and censor speech want to retain power to “save democracy.”

It’d be laughable if it weren’t so serious. Or if speaking freely weren’t the hallmark of what they claim to be saving.

Consider what JBP says: “If you think strong men are scary, wait til you see what weak men are capable of.”

Maybe you’re thinking “Bro, are you serious with all this?”

Yes. As sure as the pope shits in the woods and a bear is Catholic. Or however the saying goes.

Pay attention to how many weak men and masculinized women are in positions of power and where that’s gotten us. Here’s a shortlist:

  • Economic illiteracy
  • Your “truth” / my “truth”
  • Massive incompetence
  • Cultural / moral relativism
  • Censoring of free speech
  • Labeling competent men “weird”
  • Suicidal compassion via open borders
  • Nobody gets fired / lack of accountability
  • Attacking traditionally masculine behavior as “toxic”
    Free speech is most important on the list. People in 2024 are being arrested for their words because they haven’t yet figured out how to jail them for their thoughts.
    Did you know 90% of college students admit to self-censoring on campuses? They say they’re more fearful of speaking their mind because of their peers and classmates than faculty or staff.
    Just last week, Hillary Clinton said social media companies must moderate content on their platforms or else “we lose total control.” Do you think she’d refuse the opportunity to be “Minister of Misinformation?” Or the “Arbiter of Truth?”
    As someone who was censored from posting on Instagram & Facebook in the weeks leading up to the 2020 Election, this is something I take very seriously.
    We’ve already had a taste of the disastrous consequences of allowing weak men and lobotomized women to have power over us.
    Don’t let the meek inherit the earth while we’re still alive.

If you’re unsure where to start, I’ve got suggestions.

Be kind, not weak. Speak your mind, unapologetically. Understand that self-sacrifice isn’t honorable. It is self-development for the benefit of others that is most noble.

And while kindness is imperative, weakness must be rooted out and destroyed. If not, it’ll not only be the death of your relationships, but America as we know it.

Oh, and be sure you’re registered to vote.

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