Honored to be a guest on The Top Romp Show this week, where they “get into the nitty-gritty of modern dating.” We discuss: why I don’t like dating apps and how you should be spending your time instead what to prioritize as a male in your 20’s and 30’s insightful, modern dating tips for guys
Opportunity Knocks for Savage Thinkers
There’s a popular video on Youtube I revisit quite a bit. A motivational speaker is giving a talk to NCAA athletes, imploring them to be savage like a lion. He says, “Everybody wants to be a beast until it’s time to do what beasts do!” It got me thinking. How might his message apply to
10 Things I Learned from Meditation
After one year of meditating daily, I’ve decided to relinquish all my possessions and enter a quiet life of contemplation. That’s actually not true. The meditating part is true. I meditated every day for a year, missing only a few days. Now that I’ve finished, I feel more like a guy who took a walk
7 Habits of Highly Happy People
I write about happiness because I want more people to be happy. Many of us are chasing materialism, which is like chasing the wind. Others are playing status games, not realizing how brief life really is until death. “So it is inevitable that life will be not just very short but very miserable for those
The Mindset for Happiness
I have a friend who fantasizes about telling his boss to go f*ck himself. No hugs, boxes or exit interviews. In fact, he says, he’d walk out giving his co-workers the finger. Hey, maybe you’d like to do that someday too. Individuals who achieve financial independence and retire early could quit their careers with that
How to Pass a Shit Test: Life’s Most Underrated Skill
If you grew up around people who “gave you shit” all the time, consider yourself lucky. It means you probably learned to deal with shit-testers in ways others did not. A shit test (ST) is when someone “gives you shit” to see how you react. It can be a question or assertion. Its intent is
Navigating Relationships [for Men]
Relationships are hard. They’re even harder when you’re stupid. Many years and tears brought me to this realization. Truth is, I still may be no better at relationships than you. My best qualifications for writing about the interplay between men and women are a preponderance of boneheaded moves. Richard Feynman once said, “I don’t know anything,
We Need More Masculinity in America, Not Less
There’s a disturbing trend in our country: Young men are abandoning masculinity and becoming more feminine; young women are becoming more masculine. This observation became glaringly obvious when I returned to the United States after visiting parts of Latin America and Eastern Europe. At a coffee shop in Bucharest, Romania, I was talking to a
Think and Grow Rich: How to use Sexual Energy for Maximum Utility
Imagine you’re in your 50s, sitting at a bar in Thailand. You live in a perpetual state of regret and doubt due to your life choices. In fact, you’re not even sure whether the girl you just bought a drink is a ladyboy or not. You’ve thrown away your marriage, family, and a decent paying
6 Productivity Hacks for the Digital Age
We may be the last generation with a powerful tool like the internet, yet still possess the ability to focus the mind long enough for deep work. Today’s technology entrepreneurs believe we’re living in an “attention economy,” and you can bet they’re vying for our attention right now. If we continually succumb to the fleeting
How the NCAA Experience Prepares You for the Real World
In recent years, I’ve had the great honor of giving talks to groups of NCAA Division I athletes. I relish the opportunity to regale them with stories of my days as a college baseball player. I share the lessons learned from my NCAA experience in three areas: work ethic character development building a quiet confidence