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What Does it Mean to Be a Good Man?

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Posted By Man Overseas Posted on January 14, 2025
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When men are asked how they want to be remembered, many will say, “I want to be remembered as a good man.”

For that reason, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what it means to be “a good man.”

Let’s start with male nature. A man desires freedom—a trait which is inborn. Our nature is to hunt, fight, fornicate and play sports.

We play games designed for us to compete in a way that produces a winner. The thrill and exhilaration of winning provides a momentary freedom. And if all you do is win no matter what—you get to experience this euphoric feeling over and over. But it’s only through victory that a man can experience this incredible high.

Intense momentary pleasure is addictive to men. In fact, it’s been proven that men pursue these pleasures more than women do. We’re not just more aggressive due to our need for sexual gratification—we also tend to obsess over music, sports and drugs. Furthermore, male drug addicts & alcoholics far outnumber female addicts.

I’m sure you recognize the sensations I’m talking about. Once you’ve made a kill, hit a homerun or shared an orgasm so intense you didn’t notice your chain and turtleneck sweater were still on.

The post-ecstasy state is to enter into a beautiful oblivion. Rendez-vous then I’m through with you. 

This ecstatic feeling will have you jumping in the air, pumping your fists, or playing “I Just Had Sex” by Akon—then calling your parents right after you’re done.

Or maybe you regularly find yourself in the deer blind and do well at work. If this describes you, maybe you relate to the first part because you’re “killing it.” That’s great, but hardly worth FaceTiming Mom about.

Even still, as he matures, a good man comes to realize more meaningful aspects of male nature.

For example, a good man leads. He’s disciplined, decisive and accountable. He provides and protects. He’s a risk-taker and problem-solver, independent, stoic and self-confident. A good man’s imperative is to create and produce.

Peak Providers

Even a cursory study of history would show that from time immemorial, good men have greatly sacrificed to feed, provide shelter for and protect those they love.

Unwoke anthropologists, that is to say, honest ones, believe civilization was built for women. Tough to say if the civilized world was developed to impress women. But it’s hard to argue the point knowing how much beauty inspires men.

It’s why a good man desires a beautiful woman to call his own—she inspires him to be his best. She’ll also have him FT’ing his parents more. Look Mom, the sweater you got me for Christmas!

Plus, when driving to work on a paved road while looking up at skyscrapers—only to go indoors to experience electricity, indoor plumbing and air conditioning—gratitude should be felt not just for men, but also the women who likely inspired the architects of civilization.

But why are some men motivated to achieve triumphs such as building out the infrastructure needed for society to thrive and others not?

We don’t yet understand the mysteries of motivation for achievement. Maybe not all of us experience the same euphoric feelings in our bodies?

Becoming a Man of God

Let us proclaim the mystery of faith. God is beyond human understanding. To have faith is to believe in the invisible and unknowable. After all, nobody can prove the existence of heaven.

But why the need for evidence if man will benefit from believing anyway?

While it may seem ridiculous to cultivate thoughts that can never be proved—a connection to the divine has utility. It’s helpful in crises. And would give meaning to an otherwise nihilistic existence.

“He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.” – Victor Frankl

A good man needs convictions that’ll give meaning to his life. With meaning, a man can endure the most awful circumstances. Especially once he’s convinced there’s a higher purpose to his life.

However, the non-believer’s spirit, or even his will to live, is easily crushed when on top of all the adversity he’s facing, he’s also forced to ponder how the next guy got stronger through his hardships, while thanking some “bearded guy in the sky” for his resilience.

The advantages afforded the believer explain why religion has been indispensable throughout nearly every era of mankind (or “peoplekind” to the first LGBTQ governor of our 51st state).

Sam Harris may be the most prominent American atheist. The wordy evidence he gives us of his moral confusion exemplifies why meditation alone can’t cure philosophical angst or a dysfunctional moral compass.

He has said he’s ok with conspiring to usurp the democratic process to elect a president. For example, he believes “Big Tech” shutting down The New York Post’s Twitter account after publishing the Hunter Biden laptop story was the right thing to do. I’m sure Harris was also pleased when President Trump was kicked off Facebook, Instagram, Google, Youtube, Reddit, Twitch, Shopify, TikTok, Snapchat, etc.

But we know people have been persecuted for telling the truth throughout recorded history. We see the same evil today in Britain. Government officials there are threatening good men who expose the gang rapes of young white girls.

It’s almost Biblical!

“There was no time in history where the people who were censoring free speech were the good guys. They were always the bad guys.” – Robert F. Kennedy, Jr.

Come to think of it. The Bible provides the preeminent example of being persecuted for telling the truth.

Am I comparing Trump to Christ? I’m sure Sam Harris would think so. As would every other TDS-sufferer. But Trump is a “savior” of sorts, having surrounded himself with competence in order to “save” the Republic.

Sam Harris has also said, when referencing Biden v. Trump, that it wouldn’t matter to him if Hunter Biden had corpses of children in his basement [he still wouldn’t vote for Trump]. Nor does he think the scope of corruption the “Big Guy” was involved in with China & Ukraine stacks up against the immorality of Trump.

So there you have it. Harris is not only the most prominent atheist. He’s also the most well-known IYI (Intellectual Yet Idiot)—hardly the attributes of “a good man.” But ivory tower-types have always been good at rationalizing the most idiotic views.

Thanks for reading. I’m headed back to the house on a paved road toward downtown Houston (pictured). I need to change clothes—this Steve Jobs-inspired attire I’m wearing is starting to itch. If you’re curious, I’ll play DJ Khaled on the way. And if the wife is home, I might smoke a cig and listen to Akon on the way back.

Y’all be good.

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